June 12, 2012

Farewell, Dear Dream

When Macy Robison and I walked on stage in Long Beach last month, I didn’t want to admit that this was probably the last time we would be performing together at Time Out for Women.

In late 2008, I had encouraged Macy to create a cabaret-style recital (see pg 20 of Dare, Dream, Do).  She subsequently invited me to accompany her on the piano.  Though it had been decades since I had played seriously, as we collaborated, my love of music began to re-emerge.  Macy then invited me to go into studio to record Children Will Listen – an emotional roller coaster of a day that, happily, ended well.  And, in February 2011, she and I performed, for the first of several times, in front of 1,500+ people — a thrilling experience.

It’s not that Macy will stop singing.  She will continue to pursue this dream of hers.  When she moved from Boston, she serendipitously found another accompanist, Jan Mason, who plays professionally. (Enter slight pangs of totally immature jealous that amps up the sadness — does Macy still like me? Even though I know she does.  She is one of my closest friends.)

But here’s the thing.

For me, this particular dream is now complete.  I love music again.  I LOVED accompanying Macy, creating magical moments that moved thousands.

But to hang on would be unfair.  Her new accompanist is a better fit for the next leg of Macy’s journey — Jan not only plays better than I do, she lives around the corner, not across the country.  Meanwhile, hanging around would keep me from pursuing my next dream.

In order to find another piece of who we are, we may need to discard a little bit of who we are right now.

A poignant, immutable truth.

Thank you, and adieu, dear, wonderful, dream.  And thank you Macy for inviting me along.

We really do dream best, when we dream together.

Do you have a dream to which it’s time to bid farewell?

What dream would not have been possible had you not dreamt with another person?

  • http://samsdreamblog.com/ Sam Miller

    Love this post because it’s a reminder that dreams are about seasons. Also, the best is ahead for each of us, even if that means going in different directions.

    • Whitney Johnson

      Yes, Sam. All about seasons. Make sure you check out Emily Nielson’s piece in the book.

  • http://butcherbunkhouse.blogspot.com angie Butcher

    I love the idea that there is a “next dream”. I think of dreams as being always just out of reach. I’m working to realize that dreams can be achieved and then new dreams can form. Thanks.

    • Whitney Johnson

      It is comforting, isn’t it Angie. One of the things that I think so many people in their twenties struggle with is — I got into college, graduated from college, got a good job, got married, started having children. Now what? There is so much more of life ahead. But it’s less regimented. More discovery-driven. More about us being the gatekeeper.

  • http://www.erikorton.com Erik

    In our home we have a philosophy that when our bookshelves are crowded, it’s time to give away some books. This makes space for new ideas and new stories to come in. Like Sam, I agree that it’s all about seasons.

    I have a few dreams I’m wondering about. Is going further with those dreams still a dream, or just a habit? Have I already passed the point of joy and satisfaction? Or perhaps I just keep going because it’s a what I and others expect from me? Whatever the reasons, I can relate to the feelings of sadness and longing that come from watching one chapter come to a close and wondering what the new one will hold.

    I know you and Macy will both do even more great things!

    • Whitney Johnson

      Into my 30s I kept thinking that ballroom dance was one of my dreams, and then one day, I realized, it wasn’t anymore. Creative expression was, but not dancing. Teasing out what the dream is — and the impulse behind that dream — is an intricate process.

      Thanks, as always, for weighing in.

  • http://www.jennysdailyblessings.blogspot.com Jenny

    Your sadness and pangs of jealousy make real how meaningful this dream was to you. THANK YOU for helping Macy to realize her dream, and then to you, for realizing yours along with her. Your togetherness was an experience that I will never forget. AMAZING women with amazing talents!

    • Whitney Johnson

      Yes, Jenny that is true… the pangs of jealousy do help me realize what it meant. Thank you for pointing that out… and I’m so glad you saw how much I LOVE playing piano for Macy. A true pleasure.

  • Iris

    I’ve just discovered your blog, and of course, just at the right time. It is clear to me that putting one dream to rest to make room for a new one is clearly a crossroads that requires faith. One of my favorite quotes says it well. “When you come to the edge of the light and are about to step off into the unknown, faith is knowing that either you will find a solid place to stand or you will be taught to fly.” (Patrick Overton) I feel like flying!

    • Whitney Johnson

      So glad to hear Iris… And what a wonderful quote… best wishes with your flight.

  • Jan

    Whitney, this made me tear up to read it. We have never met but I know of you and about you from Macy — and I feel like I am following in some big footsteps. I too love music and love feeling like I am helping to create something that touches people — and I feel very humbled to be described as professional because I’m definitely not.

    Thanks for being so generous and gracious — can’t wait till we can meet.

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