The following post is dedicated to my daughter Miranda on her 9th birthday.
On my daughter’s 8th birthday she was baptized into our church. It was a wonderful day for our family, a milestone within our family’s religious tradition, a day she described “as the most important day of her life thus far”. In addition (and as part of) its religious significance, this day marked Miranda’s willingness to make and own her choices.
Here’s some of what I learned as Miranda prepared for this milestone day:
Allowing our children to own their choices makes their dreaming less of a dare
Miranda chose where and when she’d be baptized, who she wanted to baptize and confirm her (dad and Aaron Hutchins), who would speak (Jen Riddle and Kristy Richards), sing (Sara, Emma and Anna), play the piano (me), pray (her brother and Jeff), and what kind of food she wanted (Swedish cake, cherry cake, and cheesecake). It was also her job to ask the speakers to speak, the singers to sing, etc.
In the myth of Psyche, a story which outlines feminine psychological development, Psyche’s first task is to sort the seeds, a task symbolic of learning to make choices and prioritize. How are our children learning to make choices and prioritize?
In not making obvious choices, our children are likely trusting their intuition
Miranda chose two people to speak that she knew, but they weren’t the obvious choices. The insights of these particular speakers made the day that much more special. She also asked David to give a prayer. As he prayed that “whatever scares her will go away”, it was a tender moment. He teases her and she knows he loves her.
As Psyche sorts the seeds, the ants, symbolic of intuition, come to her aid. When was the last time you, or your children, made a choice that wasn’t obvious? How did it turn out?
Photo courtesy LaNola Kathleen Stone
Be aware of the (seemingly invisible) hands that help us
Because I spend little time organizing meals, and certainly not for groups of 50 people, I was overwhelmed by the prospect of orchestrating a celebratory party. Roger (my husband) and Kathy Dunnigan had prepared food, but once we were at the church, the food needed to be served, the kitchen cleaned. Women such as Rachael, Lisle and Rebecca helped, and helped without my asking. I was and am grateful, but it would be easy to overlook their contribution to making the day what it was.
As Psyche sorts the seeds, the ants are so small, she could have discounted their role. What projects are you currently working on for which your contribution could be overlooked? In turn, who are the ants, nearly overlooked contributors, in your life?
What are your religious traditions? In Penelope Trunk’s Brazen Careerist blog she writes All Career Issues are Religious Issues. Maybe. Assuming you agree with her assertion, how can a faith tradition which involves learning to make and own our choices help us achieve of our dreams?
Any other thoughts?