I recently re-discovered The Country Bunny and The Little Gold Shoes, a book my dear friend Kathleen introduced to me several years ago. The Country Bunny illustrates the feminine hero's journey: we observe her learning to prioritize, to delegate, to say no, and to get things done. I'll comment on just a few phrases: 1) "Some day I shall grow up to be an Easter Bunny: -- you wait and see!" All little girls have an 'I'dentity -- they know they are the archetypal Rachel. But then many of us forget. The Country Bunny doesn't.
During a particularly challenging week at work, I happened upon an article by Robert S. Kaplan titled 'Reaching your Potential' which offered up the teaser, "maybe you feel frustrated with your career--convinced you should be achieving more. You may even wish you had chosen a different career altogether." I was definitely frustrated, and even discouraged, but did I wish I had chosen a different path? Not really. As I reflected on Kaplan's article, I realized that I'm right where I want to be. In sharing this insight with one of my friends, she pointedly asked, "Did you really think that living your dream isn't challenging/discouraging/difficult?" To which I sheepishly replied, "No." The truth is there's a pretty large shred of me which believes that if I'm living my dream, life will breezy.
We don't get our dreams done on our own. We weren't meant to. Which is why we need 'dare to dream' teams. Like my 'dare to dream' creative team. For instance, Brandon Jameson designed the logo and banner for 'dare to dream', for Know Your Neighbor AND my personal stationery. Brandon's design work visually captures what I hope to convey in words....As I analyze the dynamic of my relationship with this creative 'dream team', there seem to be some broadly applicable observations: 1) Start with short-term projects...
According to psychologists Jean Shinoda Bolen and Robert Johnson, there are very few stories that describe the psychology of feminine, rather than masculine, development. The myth of Psyche is one of them. To become who she is – to accomplish all that she is meant to – Psyche needs to not only love and nurture and care and connect, she also must learn to sort through and prioritize her possibilities, to obtain power without selling her soul, keep her eyes on her prize, and say no. May I now share with you Mallika Sundaramurthy's original Myth of Psyche illustrations?
Margaret Woolley Busse is the newest 'dare to dreamgirl'. Margaret's been thinking about starting a blog for some months now, a blog in which she examines how public policy affects our everyday lives, and which by the way, she is eminently qualified to do. And now she has.
In his book 'This is Your Brain on Music', Daniel Levitin, a rocker-turned neuroscientist, explores the connection between music and our brain, providing some interesting insights on why we love the music we do. In particular, Levitin helped me understand why Stevie Wonder, who made his way on to my soundtrack as a pre-teen, was still on my soundtrack during my 30's, the decade of launching a career and learning to mother. He writes, "teenage years are emotionally charged years of self-discovery. Because of the emotional component of these years, our amygdala (the seat of emotion in our brain) and neurotransmitters (transporters of information from the brain to other parts of the body) act in concert to 'tag' these musical memories as something important." What kinds of music and which artists did you love as a teenager? As an adult, do you listen to similar music?
After reading my post about Stephenie Meyer's Twilight Series, Amy Sorensen and I exchanged several e-mails in which Amy shared that her dream right now is to do precisely what she's chosen to do: be a full-time mother. She shares her story below:
Every time you spend money, you're casting a vote for the kind of world you want. Anna Lappe, O Magazine, June 2003 Have you ever heard Charles Dickens' quote, "Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery." Pithy. Earn money. Spend less than we earn. I couldn't agree more. But there's so much more to be said about money. Like 'annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six' -- on what? And why? In other words, once we've exceeded that basic hurdle of money management (spending less than we earn), then what?
"You're leaving again Mom. You're never here," said my 11 year-old David, as I was walking out the door to the March of Dimes benefit that my friend Jane was emceeing. My hair was done, make-up on, clothing donned, but I asked anyway: "Do you want me to stay David?" "You won't Mom, so I won't ask." "Are you sure?" "Go mom." I got in the car, immediately called my husband who supplied characteristically good advice, "Trust your gut", I turned the car around. Walking in the door, changing into my pajamas, watching TV together, having David know that I'd put him first, and MY knowing that I'd put him first....Lovely Jane understood. Several weeks later, one of my mentors encouraged me to bring my children along as I 'dare to dream' and 'know my neighbor', or as my children call it 'dare to know your neighbor.' Because he gave me several pieces of advice, many of which I quite preferred, 'bring your children along', was noted, and forgotten. Until one of my girlfriends gave me the same advice.
When I read Katharine Seelye's NY Times article titled, Women Supportive of Clinton, But Skeptical, I found myself wondering....Why? Why do so many want to want to vote for Hillary Clinton, but won't? Is it a question of competence? Most would agree she's quite capable. So -- No. Is it because we don't agree with her politics? Within a few seconds, I rattled off the names of several women for whom I would vote despite our differing political views. So again -- No. If it's neither a question of competence, nor of political views, then why are we skeptical? Because of an archetype mismatch. Let me explain.