Two weeks ago I reached out to Ruth Ann Harnisch for some coaching — yep, coaches need coaches too.
She was gracious, laser-like, wise, and helped me make a huge course correction.
In the intervening weeks, I've wondered — why haven't I sought out more people to coach and/or mentor me?
I've gone on record saying that I haven't had many mentors — certainly not of the Obi-Wan Kenobi variety. I've actually heard a lot of people say this. Having read about the far-reaching effects of the Forty Over 40 honorees mentoring, I wonder. Are there really not enough mentors? Sure, sometimes. But maybe the dearth isn't on the supply side (mentors), but the demand-side — the mentees?
“Rings and jewels are but apologies for gifts…the only true gift is a portion of thyself,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson.
To be mentored requires both humility and confidence.
Asking for help (when you are not paying) makes us vulnerable: we may be rejected.
Asking for help also obligates us seriously consider, and even act on, the advice given; no entitlement allowed.
To ask for help indicates that we have a growth mindset.
To ask for help indicates we believe that we are fundamentally whole, not flawed.
I have no idea if this is generalizable.
But maybe my lack of mentors hasn't been because they weren't there.
But because I wasn't yet ready to receive with a portion of myself.
Now I finally am.
What about you?
How are you doing as a mentee?