About a week before Christmas, my daughter Miranda asked me if the two of us could go see The Nutcracker. She seems to want more mom-daughter time of late. Perhaps because she's getting older, perhaps because she feels 'work time' is displacing her 'mom time'. (My friend Stacey would like me to share with you the challenges of my recent on-ramping. There are many; one day I'll go into more detail.) For now, it's enough to know that one of the challenges is -- my children kind of liked having mom around more, and now that I'm around less, they miss me. So I wasn't all that surprised that Miranda suggested a girls' night out. But -- you know what -- it did surprise me that she was able to articulate so easily what she wanted. Because I just don't know that many women (including myself) who are all that good at asking for what we want. Think about it.
I have not been able to get Anna Kerr's comment that "we are desperate and depressed because our society (media/peers) encourages us to be dissatisfied" off my mind. It was a reminder that we need to not only look up and ahead, but down and back, and that when we dare and dream, and then 'get', if we aren't grateful for 'what we get', we'll still be desperate and depressed. With a nod and a big thank you to Anna, here's a list of four things (and their respective categories) I am grateful for:
For her third task, Psyche must fill a flask with water from an inhospitable stream, etched into a jagged cliff and guarded by dragons. To help her in this seemingly impossible task, the eagle of Zeus, CEO of Olympus, has the ability to see what it wants and plunge from the sky and grab it with its talons. The ability of Psyche to fill the flask is symbolic of her learning how to set a goal and to achieve that goal, avoiding the inevitable distractions. Tomorrow I begin working full-time on one of my dreams. There are so many things that need to be done to get the business up-and-running (legal documentation, bank accounts, insurance, payroll, etc), the start-up tasks could easily occupy all my time. But, the fact is, these tasks are secondary. The primary task is to invest wisely and well the monies entrusted to us. Would it be easier and less frightening to focus on the secondary tasks? Absolutely.
Said Mrs. Which in the beloved children's book, A Wrinkle in Time, You have something that IT has not. This something is your only weapon. But you must find it for yourself. One of my beloved childhood books was A Wrinkle in Time. As I read the below passage from Ms. L'Engle's memoir A Circle of Quiet, I couldn't help but wonder, what if she had given up on her ambition, if she hadn't dared to dream? She writes, "I am often asked how I came to write A Wrinkle in Time. Even with all the hindsight of which I am capable I can't quite explain it. It was during a time of transition. We had sold the store, were leaving the safe, small world of the village, and going back to the city and the theatre..."