I did not lose myself all at once. I rubbed out my face over the years...the same way carvings on stone are worn down by water. Amy Tan We needn't look far to observe that most very young girls have a strong sense of self or 'I'dentity -- they are connected not just to the world, but to themselves. My friend Rebecca has a daughter who brims with a sense of self; perhaps that's why I find her so winning. And why too I can't pull myself away from this Minerva Teichert painting.