I say No, No, No No, No, No--until I see one that is exactly what I am looking for. And then I say Yes. All I have to do is say Yes a few times in my life and I've made my fortune.We say no a thousand times before we can yes. Warren Buffett When we say 'no', what are we saying 'yes 'to? As a parent, when we say 'no' to TV before our children play outside, aren't we saying yes to their physical and emotional health? As a job seeker/student when we say 'no' to the internship that is handily ours so as to seek out one that isn't, aren't we saying 'yes' to discovering skills sets we didn't know we had? If I'm Paula Abdul and I say 'no' I didn't like that number, am I not saying 'yes' to my words meaning something?
Simon, Paula, Randy. Each of the American Idol judges has an idiosyncratic approach to critiquing the contestants. Let's start with Randy. Randy -- Randy likes to remind both the contestants and the audience of his stature as a producer/musician. Expertise is important, but in telling the contestant that they weren't as good as Mariah, Whitney et al. all of whom he's played with, the critique tends to be more about Randy than the contestant. Paula -- Paula gives compliments, lots of compliments. But because her need to be liked is so palpable, she seems to give to get. This only serves to further discount her already discounted opinion -- because she's a woman we expect her to say something nice. Not to mention her often muddled thoughts.