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Occasionally, and unfortunately recurrently, I receive unsettling communiques.  As I scan the text, my level head (the piece that can readily dispense advice) knows the appropriate response (it's not deliberate, it's not about you, there may be a workable solution, but even if there's not, it's still not about you).  But because of the people and issues involved, logic goes AWOL – every time, leaving me cumbered with a knapsack of hurt and anger.

Until last week.

I read the e-mail.  Mind you, I was not perfectly composed, but my level head prevailed:  I didn't say or do anything that I really regret.  I even handled the situation constructively.  It was one of the highlights of my week.

I've always believed that you and I were made “to act, and not be acted upon”.  Stomaching this belief can be hard when I feel out of control.  But without it, I'm quite certain, there are many instances in which I would have emotionally fled, become a deserter.

There will no doubt be more skirmishes between me and myself.  This week though, we won.

What a sense of accomplishment.

Grateful.

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Do you believe you are agentic — made to act and not be acted upon?

How has this belief helped you to keep showing up in vexing circumstances?

You may also enjoy An Antidote to Procrastination, Heidi Grant Halvorson's Nine Things Successful People Do Differently, and BJ Fogg's Behavior Model.

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