My guest on the Disrupt Yourself Podcast is Lolly Daskal, a top-notch executive coach to Fortune 500 CEOs and the like, business strategist and author of the newly published The Leadership Gap. We had a great conversation about the interrelationship between capability, competence and confidence.
What’s the difference?
We were talking about one of the leadership archetypes that Lolly articulates in The Leadership Gap—the Rebel—a type of leader that many of us feel the desire to be. The Rebel, says Lolly, “is someone who wants to change the world; wants to make an impact on the world in a truly significant way.” Sound familiar to you? Sound like you? Listen on.
“Most people say, ‘Well, you need to have confidence,’ Lolly says. “But people, I think, misunderstand what confidence is.”
It’s more than just catch phrases and mantras. Confidence isn’t a marketing ploy.
“Confidence truly is—and this is the equation—competence plus capability will give you confidence.”
Capability: innate ability and/or talents. Competence: learned, acquired and/or developed abilities and talents. Don’t say, ‘I’m confident;’ get competent and then you’ll be confident. When you’re competent, the belief that you’re able is succeeded by knowing that you’re able; it’s a much more empowering platform from which to act. “When you know you’re able that’s where the disruptor happens; that’s when the rebel really happens.”
The bottom line?
“Always be mastering more in order to get that confidence because the world is changing fast and to be a disruptor, to be a rebel, you have to keep up with the times. You can’t be a kind of person that says, “Oh these were my skills in 1980” and then wonder why in 2016 you’re not taking yourself to the next level. Keep up with the times and maybe, even, develop skills that you haven’t had before.”
Learn more about the seven leadership archetypes Lolly discusses in her work, the virtues associated with them and the pitfalls—the leadership gaps we are all susceptible to—by listening on iTunes or in the player below.
Resources Mentioned in the Show and Transcript
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
The Undiscovered Self by Carl Jung
The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell