I try very hard to not live through my kids, to want them to be _______ (fill in the blank with a glowing adjective), so that others will think I'm a good mother.
On the days when my life feels out-of-control (most days), I try not to micro-manage my children as a means of helping me feel more in control.
When they walk in the door after school, I try to ask how they are doing, rather than “When are you going to do your homework?”
But mostly I try, really try (but as you've likely surmised not always very successfully) to remember:
What about you?